Yoga offers an amazing approach for making positive changes in your life. Whether you want to change a negative behavior or commit to a positive one, the best approach is to cultivate self-compassion to build a better life. We know that change doesn't happen overnight but we can take one step at a time when we try to overcome negative patterns. Be gentle with yourself and accept your setbacks with compassion and good things will start to happen.
Find Your Inner Light
First you have to find your inner light, and discover what it is you want to change. But be careful very often people are confusing this behavior for who they are. You have to realize your soul is very pure and gentle like a diamond. What it happens is over a lifetime the diamond gets dirty and dusty by our thoughts and experiences. That's exactly why we need Yoga: to clean away the dust of the mind and let our inner light shine...
Self-Criticism vs. Self-Compassion
Some people believe they need self-criticism to motivate themselves. But this is wrong because when you are self-critical you treat yourself in a way that you would never want to treat someone you love. You are hard on yourself for every imperfection, punishing yourself for every weakness, and discouraging yourself for going after what you really want. Very often these behaviors can lead to anxiety or depression. Instead you just have to realize you want to be happy and healthy, and know that it requires a change you need to make. But instead of trying to motivate yourself with anger and rejection, if you view the change you are trying to make as an act of self-care, you will be more likely to succeed.
3 Step Process for Self-Compassion
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LOVE: Realize you deserve health and happiness, and it is worth the effort it takes to make a positive change. Often remind yourself how the change you are making supports your well-being.
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COMPASSION: Don't criticize yourself; simply acknowledge you went to look for happiness in the wrong place.
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JOY: Give yourself credit and celebrate any positive actions you have taken and have gratitude for any support you have received from family and friends.
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EQUANIMITY: It is a state of awareness and acceptance of the present moment. This is what you want to reach. Just remind yourself we are all humans, and we all make mistakes and they are an important part of the path of change. Just focus on the bigger picture of being happy and healthy.
P.S. Cultivate love for those who are happy, compassion for those who suffer, joy for those who are virtuous and equanimity for those who make mistakes.
Love and Light,